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The Final Reveal… The Onion Is Peeled! 6 Steps To Code An Emotion & 10 Ways To Plant New Positive Ones

You’ve made it… You’ve reached the ‘Heart of the Onion’!

(If you’re thinking “what the bleep is this onion talk about?” Hop on over to my previous blogs posted on 22nd January 2016, 7th February 2016 and 27th March 2016 for this to become clear).

It’s now time to plant a good crop of positive emotions that will last all year round.

Sound good?

Fab!

The first stage of the planting process is to prepare the soil well and how do you do this?

By knowing how to ‘code your emotions.’

Get ready, roll up your sleeves and let the planting commence…

‘6 Steps To Code An Emotion’

1. Identify the Negative Emotion (Action) Signal

When you’re experiencing a Negative Emotion (Action) Signal, ask yourself, “What am I really feeling right now?”

Click here for: The 10 Negative Emotion (Action) Signals According to Tony Robbins

2. Clarify the meaning

Ask yourself, “What am I really feeling right now?”

Get clarity on the emotion. “Am I feeling angry or is it something else?”

Harvest the feeling of appreciation for all your emotions. After all, they are sending you a message and are there to help you.

3. Curiosity

Getting curious helps you control your emotion, overcome the challenge and prevent the same problem from happening in the future.

Here’s some powerful questions to find the meaning in any negative emotion or situation:

“What else could this mean?”

“What can I learn from this?”

“How do I want to feel?”

“What would I have to believe to feel that way right now?”

“What am I willing to do about it right now?”

4. Recall

It is said that “the proof of the pudding is in the eating”… A powerful way to handle any emotion is to remember a time when you felt a similar emotion and realise that you’ve successfully handled this emotion before.

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This will boost your confidence as by knowing you handled it in the past, you can unquestionably handle it again, right now!

Ask yourself, “What did I do back then to handle this emotion well?” and eat that emotion for pudding again!

5. Future Rehearse

As before, you want to remember the ways you’ve handled this negative emotion in the past and rehearse handling situations where this Negative Emotion (Action) Signal would come up in the future.

Ask yourself, “What are 3-4 ways I could change my perception when a Negative Emotion (Action) Signal comes up? Such as:

“What else could this mean?”

“What’s great about this?”

“What can I do now to feel the way I want?”

At first your brain might fight back and say “NOTHING! JOG ON!” But if you push yourself and keep asking, you will come up with an answer.

6. Get excited and move forward!

When is the best time to handle an emotion? When you first begin to feel it!

Nip it in the bud in the moment and get excited of the fact that you can easily handle this emotion.

Take some action right away to prove that you’ve handled it.

The more that you use these ‘6 Steps To Code An Emotion’ the better you will get at understanding and mastering your emotions.

Woohoo… The soil has been prepared.

The final stage is to plant your 10 positive emotion onions. Just grasp them at the top (the pointed end) with the root end down and push them into your well-prepared soil.

Here goes…

‘10 Positive Emotions To Plant’

1. Be loving and warm to people

Allow love to flow freely throughout your life and relationships. Practicing kindness has a multitude of feel-good benefits, according to clinical psychologist Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D. “When we help others and do kind acts, it causes our brain to release endorphins, the chemicals that give us feelings of fervor and high spirits — similar to a ‘runner’s high,’” she writes in a Psychology Today blog. “Doing something nice for someone also gives the brain a serotonin boost, the chemical that gives us that feeling of satisfaction and well-being.”

2. Show appreciation and gratitude

Adopt an “attitude of gratitude”. Focus on the things you are grateful for in your life and express your gratitude to others. Letting others know you are grateful for things they do that make your life better can make you happier, spread cheer, and improve your relationships with other people. As you focus with all of your strength on appreciation, you will not only reduce your exposure to the negativity, but at the same time you will be attracting positive experiences into your life.

3. Be curious like a child

Give yourself permission to be curious like a child at the simplest of things. Use your imagination to seek wonder and beauty in all that surrounds you.

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4. Have excitement and passion

Be enthusiastic in its rawest form. This means finding and practicing activities that you’re passionate about and sharing that passion with others. Make sure to take some time, every day, at least once a day, to do something that brings you excitement and joy.

5. Be determined

If you want to achieve your goals, dreams and desires, the willingness and determination to do whatever is required is the magic ingredient that helps you continue in the face of challenges, setbacks and obstacles.

6. Be flexible to be able to adapt to situations

The beauty of life and human beings, is that we are adaptable. We adapt constantly. Change gives us an opportunity to examine our lives and to pause, gain perspective and adapt accordingly.

7. Have confidence

Confidence is a state of mind.

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Positive thinking, practice, training, knowledge and talking to other people are all handy ways to help improve or boost your confidence levels. The more you understand yourself by developing feelings of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind (self-esteem), coupled with having a belief in your own ability, skills and experience, the more confident you will become.

8. Cheerfulness

A simple definition of cheerful is:

1: Feeling or showing happiness

2: Feeling or showing that you are willing to do something without complaining

3: Causing good feelings or happiness

(http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cheerful)

Cheerfulness is special because of how it affects others. It isn’t just something that you feel on your own, it involves expressing positive feelings to those around you.

9. Vitality

To have the capacity to live and grow, you must take care of your body. Get plenty of sleep, eat well and exercise. You need your physical and mental energy and strength to feel and be your best every day.

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10. Contribution

Focus on helping, giving to and supporting others. When you’re helping someone, you’re not only bettering their lives, you will be improving your own. You will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else’s life better.

Well ladies and gents, there you have it… The onion is well and truly peeled.

It’s certainly been a journey over the last few months, peeling through layers of raw feeling and emotion; peeling away layers of conditioning and illusion and connecting with a purity and essence within.

I appreciate you taking the time to read this blog and my previous three blogs on this topic. I hope you have enjoyed the ride. I know I have 🙂

I would love to hear your thoughts about today’s blog in the comment section below.

  • Which 3 negative emotions do you do the most?
  • Was there a time in the past that you dealt with these?
  • Could you imagine a time in the future dealing with them now?
  • Which of the ‘10 Positive Emotions To Plant’ are your top 3 and why?

It would also be great to know what you found most valuable from the four onion-peeling blogs I have shared with you?

If you found this post juicy, please feel free to share the message with those you know, in order that more people can reach the ‘Heart of the Onion’. (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

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Sending you all much love,

Teresha, The Confidence Restyler™ Xx

Is all of this onion peeling making you emotional? 4 Things People Tend To Do With Negative Emotions

It’s time to peel again and we’re getting deep…

We’re nearing the core… and now we’re talking emotions!

But before we do, if you’ve not had a chance to check out my previous blogs posted on 22nd January 2016 and 7th February 2016 (*tut tut*), have a quick read of them now, in order for all of this “onion” talk to make sense!

Okay, back to emotions…

Some people are naturally more in touch with their emotions than others and throughout life, you’re going to have all kinds of emotions, just like there are all kinds of weather.

Emotional awareness is the first step toward building emotional intelligence, a skill that can help people succeed in life.

Your emotions are the very force that controls your vibe and tell you what’s going on with your state at any given time. Some emotions feel positive, like feeling happy, loving, confident, inspired, cheery, interested or grateful. Other emotions can seem more negative, like feeling angry, sad, jealous, afraid, ashamed, guilty or worried. Both positive and negative emotions are normal.

However, negative emotions are certainly something not to keep hold of. Negative emotions are tell-tell signs that you are not in harmony with the situation you have found yourself in.

When you become aware of a negative emotion, understand why you are feeling it and accept it, it tends to lose its destructive power.

*ANGELPYLON NEWSFLASH*

You have power to choose your emotions. You have the ability to release yourself from the negative ones.

You can shift your vibe to feel good at any time, as long as you know what emotions you are dealing with and learn from them.

However, not everyone chooses to learn from their negative emotions. Let’s take a quick look at what people tend to do:

‘4 Things People Tend To Do With Negative Emotions’

1. Avoidance

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We’ve all probably experienced that momentary relief that avoidance of an emotion or a situation can provide. However, long term avoidance can become a bigger problem than whatever was being avoided in the first place and can backfire.

Over time, you can become trapped by emotional avoidance, because you will start to feel the need to avoid many situations, people, experiences and places that may bring the negative emotion to mind, provoke it or remind you of it. The more you avoid, the weaker you feel, the more your coping skills lessen and the less of life you can experience.

2. Denial

wp-1459033631049.jpgIt may be appealing to deny the emotion and “numb the pain”. However unacknowledged feelings don’t just disappear.

Unacknowledged feelings fester inside of us.

Denying your feelings and pretending you don’t feel the way you do, is not only unhealthy for the mind and the body, but it may also deprive you of your vitality and valuable information you could be learning about yourself and your life.

It’s always best to acknowledge your feelings, so they may rise to the surface rather than keep them bottled-up.

3. Compare & Contrast

img_20151019_075134.jpgSometimes people compare and contrast themselves to others or the past. This emotion often shows up in the form of envy or jealousy. Envy is directed at others, wanting their qualities, success, or possessions. Jealousy includes thinking you will lose, or have lost some affection or security from another person because of someone or something else. With jealousy, you may believe that someone else is receiving the love and attention that you want for yourself, which is provided by someone from whom you want it.

4. Learn

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You can become more skilled in learning from and understanding your emotions. With time and practice, you get better at knowing what you are feeling and why. This skill, as I mentioned at the start of this blog, is called emotional awareness. Emotional awareness helps us know what we need and want (or don’t want). It helps us build stronger relationships. That’s because being aware of our emotions can help us talk about feelings more clearly, avoid or resolve conflicts better and move past difficult feelings more easily.

What can you do to control your emotions?

Here are some suggested steps to become more aware of your emotional state:

1. Learn to become more mindful and aware of both your thoughts and emotions throughout the day so that they become less automatic

2. Observe your feelings and emotions as they happen without judgement, whether they are positive or negative

3. Observe the thoughts that happen as a result of these feelings and emotions. Ask yourself is this right for me? How do I feel about this? Rate how strongly you feel the emotion on a scale of 1–10, with 1 being the mildest feeling and 10 the most intense

4. Replace judgemental thoughts with non-judgemental ones, such as “it’s okay for me to feel the way I do right now” or “these feelings are neither right nor wrong and will go away when they need to”

5. Continue to consciously observe your feelings and emotions as they happen and any thoughts that may arise that contain judgements

AngelPylon Train your Awareness: Now, I do not advocate any form of physical discomfort and this may not be for everyone as it may hurt a little, but there is a technique that some people use to train their awareness of their thoughts, feelings and emotions. It goes like this:

Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Each time you notice a toxic dark/negative thought entering and starting to take over your mind, SNAP yourself (please go gently!) with the rubber band and say “CANCEL CANCEL” to yourself in order to cancel the self-destructive thought and stop it from growing into a monster thought. Then, follow steps 3-5 above and seek to replace the negative thought with a more constructive thought. The repetition of this technique is considered to cut down on your old, negative, self-destructive thoughts and give your autopilot a temporary reset – less negative thoughts, less snapping!

Wow! There you go… 4 things people tend to do with negative emotions.

The good news is, everyone can be more aware of their emotions and take control of how they are feeling. It just takes practice.

The important thing to remember is not to judge your feelings. Just keep noticing and naming them 🙂

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I really appreciate you taking the time to read this. “It’s been emosh!”

I would love to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comment section below.

  • Can you relate to any of the 4 things people tend to do with negative emotions?
  • Is there anything you will do differently in the future to better manage your emotions?
  • Perhaps you know someone who does not handle their emotional state well?

If you found this post interesting, please feel free to share the message with those you know, in order that everyone can be more aware of their emotions and take control of how they are feeling. (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

Be sure to subscribe to this blog by clicking the ‘Follow AngelPylon’ button, as on the next blog, I will be sharing with you how to identify negative emotion signals, along with some positive emotions to plant.

Looking forward to seeing you again!

Teresha, The Confidence Restyler™ Xx

More Onion? 5 Reasons Why People Can’t Make Decisions

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The wait is over! It’s here… the next layer of the onion!

I know you’ve been waiting in anticipation (#cheekysmile)

If you’ve not had a chance to check out my previous blog posted on 22nd January 2016 (*shocked face*), I would invite you to jump over to it now before you get tucked into this one, as it sets the scene for today’s blog. Otherwise, you may be reading this thinking, why the *bleep* is she talking about onions!

If you have read the last blog and got a little teary… This image is for you:

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Sometimes “light bulb” moments aren’t easy to take in. However, there is a saying:

“Know your onions”

This means to be knowledgeable about a subject. Therefore, I cannot encourage you enough to use this information to empower yourself to take control of any challenging situation you may be facing right now and make a positive change.

So can I ask you, are you ready for another layer of the onion?

Brill, I think you have DECIDED you are!

And this is today’s layer of the onion. Decisions, Decisions…

Wouldn’t it be great if there were some hard and fast rules for decision-making?

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There are, however, a few interesting reasons that play into why we can’t decide, which we should all be aware of. Here’s a quick run through 5 of them:

‘5 Reasons Why People Can’t Make Decisions’

1. Lack the practise

Sometimes we lack the practise of dealing with change. Many people continue making the same kind of choices throughout their life and some even form a resistance to change.

It’s likely you will be venturing into uncharted territory with the decision you have to make and this can make anyone feel uncomfortable. To be able to confront the unease of change, challenge yourself regularly to step outside your comfort zone and practise some completely new ideas and behaviours. This will help you become familiar with the process of change.

“Switch it up and do something different”

When creating a new habitual process, it will be important to link your internal dialogue to the new thing you are doing. For example, let’s say your goal is to stop snacking on chocolate and start snacking on pumpkin seeds instead. The chocolate lovers out there may be saying in their mind before biting into a piece of chocolate: “Hmm, this is going to be sooooooo good!” Then when eating it, may be thinking “This is just heavenly”. Now this may sound a little crazy, but this same internal chat would need to be applied when munching on the pumpkin seeds. Yes, that’s right. Munch on those seeds and say “Yes, this tastes and feels sooooooo good!”

Give it a go. With practise, if you can control your internal chat, you will be reprogramming your mind and you will be able to handle change, both big and small more easily and effectively.

2. Uncertain about the consequences

The existence of uncertainty is an unavoidable part of life and decisive amongst uncertainty and vagueness is something many struggle with.

I’m sure we’ve all thought wouldn’t it be great if we could make a decision today based on a tomorrow we can predict with a reasonable amount of certainty. How awesome would it be if we knew what our life would look like one, five or ten years from now?

But if you’re waiting for certainty before you commit to a plan of action, you can spend your life on hold and put your goals and dreams at risk by missing the opportunities.

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I’m afraid accepting probability is just one of those things. However, it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. A “bad” decision can lead to new knowledge and valuable lessons and discoveries that help you to make better quality decisions. See it this way, you either win or you learn! If you never make a decision, how can there be a reference point to help you form the basis for comparison?

Be crystal clear on what you want and trust your gut.

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“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you’ll land among the stars” ~ Les Brown

3. Have a “story”

These are all the reasons or dare I say “excuses” why you can’t do something. This creates an internal hypnotic effect and can keep you stuck where you are.

What’s holding you back?

Perhaps some of these reasons will resonate with you: 99 Excuses for not making ideas happen

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4. Expect perfect clarification

If you expect to be perfect, you will never do anything. Giving up having to make a perfect decision can save you so much stress and time. Better to approach decisions with the attitude that acknowledges that life is unpredictable and you simply have to be in action.

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5. Not focused on the ‘Return on Investment’ (ROI)

Your ROI is the benefit the decision will bring into your life, the lives of others, the environment e.t.c. This is your reason or sometimes known as your ‘why’ for making the decision. Often people are indecisive as they are not focused on their ‘why’.

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How big enough is your ‘why’?

Your ‘why nots’ will always make tomorrow a better day for taking action and sometimes your ‘why nots’ are created because you are focusing on what you will be “losing”, instead of focusing on what you will be gaining.

Ed Smith made an attention-grabbing point during the Breakthrough Success Summit. He said that you often find the things you lose!

There are so many situations I can think of where this concept could apply. For instance, could this be the reason why some people struggle with weight management and often gain back the weight they lost? Maybe if people were to stop saying they “want to lose weight” and instead said they “want to gain fitness and a healthier body” then that’s what they would achieve and maintain, as they are focused on the gain?

Maybe rather than saying “I don’t want to be broke” and stating the opposite of that in “I want to be wealthy” would attract the gain of money?

Interesting food for thought, eh?

BOOM! There you go… 5 reasons why people can’t make decisions.

Are there any decisions you’re struggling to make right now? Perhaps you could talk to a friend, colleague or someone you know who’s been in your situation before. Their insight will likely be as or even more valuable than almost any research.

If you’re struggling with a difficult decision, ask yourself if this decision is really that significant and important. Your answer will help you to stop obsessing over it.

Check out: Four tricks to help you make any difficult decision for some useful tips and exercises to help you through the decision making process.

“Life rewards action”

You either make a decision or you don’t and that is a decision in itself. So be bold and make a call on your future!

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As always, it would be brilliant to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comment section below.

  • Can you relate to any of the 5 reasons why people can’t make decisions?
  • Is there anything you will do differently in the future to become more decisive?
  • Can you think of a situation where you would have missed out on a rewarding opportunity had you waited until you were 100% sure before jumping in?

If you found some value from this post, please feel free to share the message with those you know. Let’s see how many lives you could positively affect with your awareness of this topic. (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

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Sending you much love and positivity.

Teresha a.k.a. AngelPylon Xx

Let’s Peel The Onion

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Last weekend I attended the Champion Academy’s 3 day ‘Breakthrough Success Summit’ in London UK, hosted by the founder Ed Smith and wow… my onion was well and truly peeled!

Onions?

No, I’m not talking groceries… I didn’t take the vegetable with me! The smell certainly would not win me any new friends!

As some of you may know, the metaphor to “peel the onion” is business jargon meaning to delve into a problem, one layer at a time, to thoroughly understand what’s causing all the trouble.

And this is what the ‘Breakthrough Success Summit’ did, it peeled the onion by helping those who attended to learn tangible skills to own their ability to control their thinking, harness their emotions and to direct their focus to achieve results in the quickest way possible.

You can find out more about Ed’s Champion Academy at: www.championacademy.co.uk

I learned a great deal during the summit that will definitely help me to be the best version of me and over the coming weeks, I, in turn, would like to share the information I received with you, to also help you be the best version of you! Now who doesn’t want to live a life of purpose, on purpose?!

So… are you ready to peel the onion???

Fabulous! Here goes…

Today, I would like to share the ‘6 Major Reasons Why People Tend to Fail’. I’ve flung in some extra “golden nuggets” and references from my personal discoveries over the years, to help you understand the pitfalls to avoid, to safeguard your happiness and success:

‘6 Major Reasons Why People Tend to Fail’

1. A weak untrained psyche

You must be able to control your internal chat. You know… that annoying, nagging voice in your mind sometimes referred to as the “Ego” that stops you from believing in yourself and overcoming perceived hurdles in your life. It’s important to understand where these thoughts come from, so you can get your thinking clean to make life much simpler.

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Steve Jobs is quoted as saying: “Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”

2. Not willing to pay the price

Sometimes in order to gain, there is a compromise. For example, if you wish to become fit and healthy, you may need to wake up earlier to exercise or to go to the gym. You may need to forsake that food item that does not serve your body. Or, if you desire a romantic relationship, you may need to pay the price of possible rejection along the way. Be willing to compromise and pay the price.

3. Your “story”

This is a story that is holding you back and keeping you a prisoner of the past. However, believing that the outcomes in your life are entirely down to the situations you have experienced, disempowers you to achieve your goals. You can gain back control of the outcomes in your life by choosing to respond to things that happen in a more positive and helpful way.

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4. Ineffective strategies

This is all encompassing, such as having ineffective coping strategies, ineffective learning strategies, ineffective strategic planning… It’s like wanting to travel north and looking at a map going south!

5. No accountability

Most people end up saying a lot, but not doing anything. Being accountable for your decisions and actions means “putting a date on it!” When do you want it to happen?

Have people in your life that can help you become accountable and it will be important to choose the right person to help you with this. For example, if your goal is to become healthier and trimmer, you will probably agree that having a friend who isn’t into healthy eating and exercise would not be the ideal “accountability partner” to motivate you.

I’m an avid follower of Danielle McDonald, The Clarity Architect who has shared some great tips on who you may wish to consider having in your life to support you with the achievements of your goals and dreams. I would encourage you to check this out at: www.daniellemcdonald.com

“Your Network is your Net Worth”

It is said that a strong network of people in your life is like money in the bank. Your network can help you build visibility, connect you with influencers and open up doors for new opportunities. Building and nurturing a network is one of the most powerful things you can do to support your goals.

Do bear in mind that when it comes to accountability, it’s also important to go easy on yourself. If you do not achieve your goal date, it doesn’t mean that you have “failed” and should therefore give up. No, no, no!!! Simply use it as feedback about what you need to do differently to move you forwards. This will enable you to focus on constructing new strict processes to attain your goal.

6. People don’t take advantage of momentum

Remember to start small, then build.

When it comes to goals, most people go in all guns blazing and then become overwhelmed. When in a state of overwhelm, people usually lose their drive and motivation, therefore they reduce their efforts or they may stop all together.

Therefore, a key thing to remember is that the attainment of goals requires momentum. This is sometimes referred to as the “snowball effect”. You’ve got to start small, then build. Chunk down your goals into small action steps and perform each one well. Picture it like a jigsaw puzzle…

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It’s the small pieces (action steps) that make the whole puzzle (the goal).

In my opinion, British cycling coach, Sir Dave Brailsford’s ‘aggregation of marginal gains’ philosophy sums it up neatly:

“If you broke down everything you could think of that goes into riding a bike, and then improved it by one percent, you will get a significant increase when you put them all together”

Although his concept is in relation to British Cycling, I feel the principle can be applied in all aspects of goal setting. Always strive for improvement, for those 1% gains, in absolutely every single thing you do.

BOOM! There you go… the 6 reasons why people tend to fail. If you are in a bit of a “funk” right now, as you are not where you expected to be in life, I truly encourage you to use this information to empower yourself to take control of your situation and make a positive change. You can do it!

It would be wonderful to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comment section below.

  • Can you relate to any of the 6 reasons why people tend to fail?
  • Is there anything you will do differently in the future?
  • Do you feel you surround yourself with people who uplift you and help support your goals and dreams?

If you found some value from this post, please feel free to share the message with those you know. You just never know what meaningful difference you could be making in their lives! (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

But wait!!!!! Before you go, there are many more layers to the onion to peel. Stay tuned and be sure to subscribe by clicking the ‘Follow AngelPylon’ button to avoid missing the next layer of the onion!

Hmmm… Missing all the juicy information in the next layer? Maybe there should be a 7th reason why people tend to fail? Hahaha

Until next time, I’m sending you much love.

Teresha a.k.a. AngelPylon Xx

You really know how to push my buttons!!!

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Aargh!!!!!!

Yes… scream, shout & let it all out!

I know, irritating right? That one person or situation that pushes your buttons and makes you lose your cool, especially when it seems it has been done intentionally or maliciously.

But why is it that you’ve become irritated, frustrated, upset or even angered?

How have they managed to push your buttons?

Did you know that we have several “hot buttons” that can be pushed?

So what are these hot buttons I hear you ask?

Well… sit back and let’s take a little look:

  • Hot Button 1: Competence

You perceive someone has questioned your intelligence or skill

  • Hot Button 2: Inclusion

It appears someone is excluding you or implying you’re not a good companion

  • Hot Button 3: Autonomy

It appears someone is controlling, imposing or threatening your self-reliance

  • Hot Button 4: Status/Worthiness

You perceive someone is questioning your tangible/non-tangible assets (including power, position, economic wealth, attractiveness etc.)

  • Hot Button 5: Reliability

You perceive someone is questioning your trustworthiness or dependability

  • Hot Button 6: Morality

It appears someone is questioning/something has gone against your moral values and integrity

Now take a moment to think back to a time where you were irritated, frustrated, upset or even angered by a person or situation?

Can you now identify which one of the above hot buttons were pushed?

If so, fantastic!

Through understanding what buttons have been pushed, you will be in a stronger position to better control your feelings and emotions in the heat of the moment and will be able to choose to respond in a more helpful, positive way.

AngelPylon Call to Action: If you face a person or situation again that irritates, frustrates, upsets or angers you, don’t give away your power. Remember, you are the only person in control of your emotions and your actions. Stop and say right now “I’m not going to do that no more!”

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It would be great to hear your thoughts about this topic in the comment section below.

  • Which of the six “hot buttons” do you find being pushed?
  • Does it tend to be the same person or type of situation pushing those buttons?
  • How will you respond differently in the future?

I do hope you found some value from this post. If so, please feel free to share the message with those you know. (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

With Love

Teresha a.k.a. AngelPylon Xx

Without meaning to sound rude, how old are you?

Let Us All Unite!

I think it’s fair to say that there is a lot going on in the world and much tragedy happening on a global scale.

Like most people, these events always leave me shocked, devastated and extremely sad.

Much like my ‘Love is Louder’ blog posted on 28th October 2015, these are the times when we must put on a united front to work in harmony with each other and display love, compassion and forgiveness.

Love is Intelligent

Now I can understand that this may not be an easy feat. Emotions can be highly charged during difficult times.

What has helped me over the years to come from a place of love, understanding and compassion, was learning that people are not their behaviour.

You may be reading that last statement thinking “Say that again Teresha?” or “How can you say that? Are you totally oblivious to all of the monstrosities happening in the world because of people’s actions?”

Please hear me out…

There is an important distinction between a person and a person’s actions and behaviour and their positive worth as a fellow human is kept constant. It is the appropriateness of their action and behaviour that is brought into question, not the person per se.

All behaviour, even the most awful or bizarre, has a positive intention for that person. People are doing the best they can, with what they’ve got, from where they are. Their model/map of the world, their blueprint is what’s making them make the decisions that they do and behave in way they do… just like you.

When I came to this understanding, it was a whole new perspective for me to adopt and it may be the same for you. You may think there’s just no excusing their behaviour, but having this perspective will help you understand why people do the things they do. If you think of behaviour as something separate from a person, you will understand that it can be changed, if the person has the desire to change.

Therefore, let us all unite to change behaviour on a mass scale and bring about peace across the world. This all starts from within us, on an individual basis. We must remember that peace is not something that will occur when someone else changes, but when all of us individually, look within and focus on the peace within us.

This may sound deep and cliché, but peace really does start with us, one person at a time because we are all one in truth.

Together, we can help elevate the vibration of our world if we turn our attention to the beauty within and around us right now and everything there is to be thankful for, because amongst all the fear and sorrow, it is there.

I would now like to take this moment to share with you an inspiring speech from Charlie Chaplin in the movie “The Great Dictator” (1940). This message was delivered 75 years ago and still so relevant today.

Let Us All Unite!

It would be wonderful for you to share your thoughts in the comment section below.

  • Have there been times when you have behaved in a way that upon reflection you think “I could have handled that much better”?
  • What was the effect of that behaviour on you, others and/or the environment?
  • Do you feel those actions at that time took away your worth as a person?
  • Have you had moments when you have wanted your actions and behaviour to be forgiven?
  • Have you overcome a difficult situation by coming from an inner place of love, understanding and compassion?

I hope you found encouragement from this post. If so, please feel free to share the message and spread the movement of peace to all those you know. (If you can see a date below, click on this so you can see the share and comment options)

Wishing you peace always

Teresha a.k.a. AngelPylon Xx

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